Tuesday, January 31, 2012

Parenting someone into a career path

Thanks for continuing to read my blog. I'm unable to post as often these days as I'm trying to finish up with my school work and come April...... I will be finished. So hang in there and keep watching for the occasional post and I'm hoping I'll be able to entertain you more often very soon.

My husband and I were out running errands the other day and ran into the father of our daughter's high school friend. Now we've never been very chatty with this man, he's always been kind of a quiet man but our girls had gone to school together and played sports for many years so the girls hung out quite a bit. Now the man.... I'll call him Mr. D walked by us and stopped to say hello. It was very nice. We filled each other in on our daughters' whereabouts. His daughter is in school to become a federal agent. Wow! Sounded impressive to me.

We get out to the car and as usual my husband can't remember who Mr. D is. So.... I try to remember stories that he can remember and relate the face to the story.

So this is the story I chose to remind him :

There was a time when our daughter needed a ride home from school but I was driving my other daughter to pick up her car at the garage. Now being law-abiding citizens when the law says this......

After you pass your driving test, you will be issued a provisional driver license.
This means you cannot give anyone under 20 years old (your friends, your brother(s), sister(s), cousin(s), etc.) a ride unless you have a licensed parent, a guardian or other adult 25 years old or older in the car with you. 

....we will abide by it. 
I know....crazy parenting right!! We follow rules and that rule applies for the first year of having a new license. So I told her to wait at school and she assured me that she could get a ride from someone who was OK to drive her home (aka someone who had past the provisional first year). So very shortly I leave the house to drive my other daughter to pick up the car and as we are driving away I see a black SUV driving down our street with Mr. D's daughter.....let's call her Kim. (She could be a federal agent one day....don't want to get her in trouble.) Now I know that Kim had just gotten her license within the last month.  

As we passed the SUV, I said to my daughter..... your sister is in that car. She said "No she's not.....Kim was all alone". I said....."No, your sister is crouching down because they just spotted us." 
So Kim drives perfectly past me without blinking or turning her head to catch my eye.
Kim pulls into the street just past my house and I quickly turned the car around and parked under a tree behind a van several houses up. I could see my house but they wouldn't notice me. Yup.... I'm staking out my own home!!

 I got my phone ready to speed dial my daughter and waited for Kim to pull in front of the house and sure enough....she.... I mean.....they did.
My daughter in the car with me, between fits of laughter and disbelief, says "Wow MOM.....you should be a CSI agent!!" 

I hit speed dial and my daughter now sitting in my driveway answers her phone. The conversation went like this:
Me: Hi honey, did you happen to get a ride home yet? Or do you still need me to come get you?
Her: Yeah..... Brian dropped me off. (Brian is older....I'm supposed to feel better.)
Me: Really, how nice! Because I think that looks like Kim. Wait.....yes I'm sure its Kim and if you look down the street....you'll see me waving at you both right now!! So..... you are busted. Get in the house now and we'll talk when I get back!!

At which point, very pleased with my parenting skill, I drove away laughing!!! 
So....my husband now remembers who Kim is when I relate this story. He says...... "Wow..... federal agent and she has you to thank for helping her find her career choice! That's something to be proud of!" 
I hate it when he thinks he's funny.

Thursday, January 12, 2012

Empty Nest.....part two

We are getting close to the end of week three of empty nesting and this is what I’ve learned. 
1.      I need to learn to cook for two again. I AM SICK OF LEFTOVERS!
2.        I have lots of free time when I don’t pause for a minute to watch whatever TV show that Jess is watching….. apparently, I don’t need to keep up with the Kardashians or anyone else or to discuss the latest internet video of the marriage proposals that she and I love to watch.
3       If you save up all of your talking for when your husband gets home…..on the weekend he will take you to the movies so he can have a minute (or hour) of peace and quiet.  
4.     . If your younger child agrees to come home to visit…..it is not to see mom. It’s to do her laundry and sleep.
                   Extra points if you can find Melissa in there!

This is what Jess has been learning……

While Blaine was there....they did some sightseeing. 
They ate "lobstah" in Boston....

Did some ice skating.....
This is Blaine on ice.....haha....ouch! I mean falling on ice.

Spent New Years Eve in a cabin in New Hampshire.....

They took her to the local mall in New Hampshire. I hope she didn't spend too much money...she won't have room in her suitcases.

Blaine learned some new fashions to take back to California.
He must have gotten some tips from my nephew Charlie.....

After Blaine left and the vacation was over, Jess has been hard at work at her internship. She texted me that  it was 8 degrees her first morning. In my best mom pep talk, I told her this was good for her....that this was a good growing experience. (What else can a mom say?) She texted back that it was too cold for anything to grow back there. I couldn't argue with her on that one.
Love this picture of her with Aunt AnnMarie....what's funny is Jess is wearing two jackets. 

Today she sent this picture with the note......"It's time". 

Nope....I don't miss the shoveling and cleaning off the car every morning. I'm happy to be right where I am!